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Detail from a temporary assemblage I constructed in November 2008 which prompted the writing of Pedestal. |
Here's the first chapter, "Mother" from my manuscript Pedestal. Writing this book was the impetus for the writing class I'm teaching next month, "Your Grief Story: Writing the Loss of a Loved One." More on that class in the post below this one.
Mother
She’s thinner now, her face chiseled and papery as if from a family not your own. She has trouble forming words, holding thoughts. “Not enough blood to the brain,” her doctor says. Who knows if this is true? He’s been wrong so many times.
“Tell me,” your mother says. “How did I get here?”
You tell her the story you think she’s asking for. The fall. The fractured pelvis. The interrupted healing, the ill-advised flight, her glassy eyes and dehydration. A second trip to the hospital. This is where you are now, mop-streaked tiles beneath your feet, her half-room made smaller still by its bed tray, mismatched chairs, and privacy curtain.
You remember another room. A Saturday night. You, age seven, sitting on your parents’ bed, watching your mother squeeze herself into a girdle, tuck herself into a foundation bra. Sometimes, you zippered her dress. You’d watch her fiddle with silk scarves, knotting, pinning, and re-pinning, until she returned the scarf to the drawer, put on a necklace instead. “It’s a better line,” she’d say, tracing her body, throat to belly. Forty years later, in your own mirror, you do the same.
When the nurses turn your mother—wipe her, wash her, re-cover her—in her body, you see your own. You feel kinship, then fear. You think, "Someday, this will be me.” Push these thoughts away. The present is already too much.
As she sleeps, you pledge to keep this version of her—muscles grown limp, bones turned to lace—from displacing all others. You will remember the woman who bore, bathed, and raised five children. These legs and arms carried you. These muscles. These bones.
She opens her eyes, asks again, "How did I get here?”